I was on my way to the gym this morning, and Bruce's "Dancing in the Dark," came through on my Ipod shuffle. I thought for a moment about the words "You can't start a fire without a spark," and figured that I could connect these simple thoughts to our own ambitions in my blog today. I shall concentrate on the spark that it takes to light up or start up one's own success story.
For those of you who are forever searching (as I once was) for a spark or a source of inspiration to land on your front door step, then you need to take an even further step back and reconsider your means of attaining complete and utter success. Whether you want to achieve certain goals with a career path you have chosen or you are searching for your better half, you must get the spark going before a fire can take you on your way to fulfilling these dreams.
I've always connected music to my writing, relationships, the way I appreciate a lost moment or memory as well as the way I admire the world around me. Whether I'm strolling down the streets of Manhattan or the distant silent sands of some beautiful beach, or if I'm running eight miles and zoning out at the gym, allowing my music and my mind to take me away from the treadmill; I'm constantly connecting thoughts and music. From Hans Zimmer to Florence and the Machine to David Darling to Helen Jane Long to my current inspiration; Bruce's "Dancing in the Dark," and who would have thought "Dancing in the Dark," could possess such a spark of passion?
If you listen to the lyrics, he says "I'm sick of sitting around here trying to write this book, and "You can't start a fire worrying about your little world falling apart," as well as, "You can't start a fire sitting around crying from a broken heart." These three verses say it all when searching for a way to become something or someone better.
Bruce is right. If you are sick of sitting around waiting for inspiration to come knocking down your door for you to write that book, then stop waiting! AND TA DAAA! Light your own spark that will give you the biggest fire that anyone has ever seen. And that fire will come from all of the burning emotions that are being bottled up in the depths of your soul; feeding off of the experiences and memories, the wants and cravings for the better you! The best you! The greatest you!
If you are tired of sitting around crying from a broken heart, or just keep wondering why you simply can't seem to get anything right when it comes to your relationship, then RUN! Run and TA DAAA! Light your own spark that will give you the biggest fire that anyone has ever seen! You can do this by doing what most people have forgotten to do because they get so caught up in this "idea" of love. It's the craving of that "idea" that constantly gets in the way of a person's ambitions as they slowly forget about the most important thing they must do before they even thinks about searching for a counterpart. This is to love they self!
And here is where we connect the spark with the fire and the path to success when it comes to your career and your relationships. For so many years, I was doing everything backwards. I was waiting for enlightenment to come gleaming through my window, as well as God to put the perfect man right in front of my crooked path. That was my problem. I was waiting, and waiting and waiting. Then I had some awakenings, a couple of deaths, a few stumbles as well as some rises, but it was only until I started giving myself the love that I deserved that I started to see progress.
Once you focus on what you want as a person, and what you want to get out of this life, then you are better prepared for success and giving and receiving the type of admiration, adoration, respect, and love from someone else. You can't just sit around and wait for things to happen. If they aren't happening, and deep down inside, you know this, then you are one step ahead of the game already. Recognize your mistakes, learn from your experiences, and light that spark that will lead you to that fire that rages in your heart, eventually bringing you complete happiness and success.
I've learned, through my own experiences and roads that I have taken, that no spark was ever going to come unless I loved myself first. That was my spark. After that, I lit other sparks. I didn't wait any longer for God to deliver me the perfect idea for a story, or the perfect man to get married to. I was tired of waiting. I decided to get into the best shape of my life by going to the gym six times a week; lifting weights and doing an intense cardio workout. I took my writing to a new level; a brighter level. I began concentrating on my success which came from the affection and love that I have toward children. Now I have my 1st children's book due to be released shortly, as well as some works that I am focusing on to help children through bullying. I want to show them a better appreciation of the world around them, and this includes a love for themselves and a respect for all humanity. I also want to use my writing to remind our youth that any dream is possible, and every child is unique. And most importantly, no one's identity should ever be shaped by others.
I found my passion again and that was only through taking a look inward and learning to love and respect myself. In doing so, I found my place in this world, and this is only the beginning. My fire will forever grow with the landmark I have made as a mentor, author, and guide for those who need it.
When you love and respect yourself, nothing else matters other than achieving your goals and showering loved ones with your own personal reflections, wisdom, and ultimately, your gifts. These gifts are so sacred and special, because they make up who you are as a person. You should bestow them upon the people who you are trying to become a leader or mentor for. Don't give your gifts away to just anybody. That is something that I learned the hard way. When you do this, you get taken advantage of, and just gravitate further away from loving who you are and what you are capable of conquering in this lifetime. So many people just give their affections and their time away to those who don't deserve it. Once you begin to look at yourself in the mirror and love and admire what you are reflecting at, then you are ready to start lighting sparks for the whole world to see. As your fire grows, more people will be attracted and inclined to sit closer to you. This is my wisdom for today.
Sunday, November 18, 2012
Sunday, November 11, 2012
Machine Gun Preacher
Last night, I watched a movie called Machine Gun Preacher, and it has touched my heart; affecting me in more ways than I could have ever imagined. Gerard Butler plays Sam Childers, and Michelle Monaghan portrays his wife, Lynn. I was trying to think of the best possible way to connect this movie to my children's book, which is due to be released sometime before Christmas. Today happens to be also be Veteran's Day, and what better timing for me to have watched such a moving and epic story.
If you haven't seen this movie, I highly recommend that you get your hands on it asap. This story not only defines what it means to transition from a lost soul to an astounding human being, capable of leading and helping those who desperately need it, but it also reminds us, the American people, just how lucky we are to embrace the liberation of liberty each and every single day. That liberty which was achieved through the wars of our heroes and our veterans.
There are so many times where we find ourselves taking our freedom for granted, and not doing the things that we need to be doing to contribute to humanity and the world around us. For some of us, we do as much as we can, and we should always be proud of those commitments and sacrifices. But if you ever feel like you want to do more, and you just don't know where to start, watch this movie. Your heart will be touched on so many different levels that you will have no other choice but to want to search for a greater cause. I couldn't help but to tear up at the violent acts and grotesque slaughterings of our precious children and their families...human beings who simply exist less than half a world away.
I wanted to connect this to my own experiences and how I have become, and will always try to be, a better person. I want you to also be able to relate to these issues we have within ourselves so that you can benefit from the knowledge that I am hoping people will share through this blog. I am sure there are so many of us who still are looking for places to plant our feet and make differences in our community and the rest of the world.
Sam Childers is a man who is not afraid to speak his mind and is a person of God. But Sam wasn't always like this. He had to stumble, fall incredibly hard to the ground, and it was when he hit rock bottom that his spirit was somehow shaken, awakened, and no longer forsaken. There have been many times where I felt like this. Maybe I didn't hit the ground as hard as he did, but I felt myself drifting backwards, and it took a lot of soul searching to find that becoming a leader and mentor for others is where I needed to be. And to use my own talents as a writer to bring children back to the appreciation of the world around them is part of my legacy. This will be one of the most important aspects that I want our youth to benefit from after reading my children's book.
And here is the connection through it all. This movie not only reminded me about my children's book, and how so many kids across the sea appreciate the simplest things in life, but it also gave me a way to pass this knowledge on; even if only one, two or 25 people read this blog. These children's lives are in complete turmoil, and yet, their spirits are never broken. They are running and hiding from a massive and brutal army called the LRA. They are getting raped and beaten, murdered or trained to fight in an army that surpasses the capacity for them to fight back. And here is Sam Childers, a man who was saved by God, and who is now doing everything he can, to save these innocent children.
So today, we have to thank our own veterans who have fought so hard to give us the freedom and liberty that allow us to make the choices we need to fulfill our hopes and dreams. We reap the benefits, and sometimes, don't even know it. There is so much to be done in this lifetime, and when you find your path to success and leadership, then you can help others achieve in finding what their contributions to humanity and the rest of the world should be. Whether or not you are helping someone find themselves, molding the minds of our children here in the U.S., donating and pledging your time to Hurricane Sandy relief efforts or any other organizations, writing books and stories to move people and inspire both adults and children, or anything else that you find a greater cause in; you are making this place better.
And if you are not doing your part, and feel like you can do more, then watch this movie, please! You will want to become a better person by the time the movie is finished.
If you haven't seen this movie, I highly recommend that you get your hands on it asap. This story not only defines what it means to transition from a lost soul to an astounding human being, capable of leading and helping those who desperately need it, but it also reminds us, the American people, just how lucky we are to embrace the liberation of liberty each and every single day. That liberty which was achieved through the wars of our heroes and our veterans.
There are so many times where we find ourselves taking our freedom for granted, and not doing the things that we need to be doing to contribute to humanity and the world around us. For some of us, we do as much as we can, and we should always be proud of those commitments and sacrifices. But if you ever feel like you want to do more, and you just don't know where to start, watch this movie. Your heart will be touched on so many different levels that you will have no other choice but to want to search for a greater cause. I couldn't help but to tear up at the violent acts and grotesque slaughterings of our precious children and their families...human beings who simply exist less than half a world away.
I wanted to connect this to my own experiences and how I have become, and will always try to be, a better person. I want you to also be able to relate to these issues we have within ourselves so that you can benefit from the knowledge that I am hoping people will share through this blog. I am sure there are so many of us who still are looking for places to plant our feet and make differences in our community and the rest of the world.
Sam Childers is a man who is not afraid to speak his mind and is a person of God. But Sam wasn't always like this. He had to stumble, fall incredibly hard to the ground, and it was when he hit rock bottom that his spirit was somehow shaken, awakened, and no longer forsaken. There have been many times where I felt like this. Maybe I didn't hit the ground as hard as he did, but I felt myself drifting backwards, and it took a lot of soul searching to find that becoming a leader and mentor for others is where I needed to be. And to use my own talents as a writer to bring children back to the appreciation of the world around them is part of my legacy. This will be one of the most important aspects that I want our youth to benefit from after reading my children's book.
And here is the connection through it all. This movie not only reminded me about my children's book, and how so many kids across the sea appreciate the simplest things in life, but it also gave me a way to pass this knowledge on; even if only one, two or 25 people read this blog. These children's lives are in complete turmoil, and yet, their spirits are never broken. They are running and hiding from a massive and brutal army called the LRA. They are getting raped and beaten, murdered or trained to fight in an army that surpasses the capacity for them to fight back. And here is Sam Childers, a man who was saved by God, and who is now doing everything he can, to save these innocent children.
So today, we have to thank our own veterans who have fought so hard to give us the freedom and liberty that allow us to make the choices we need to fulfill our hopes and dreams. We reap the benefits, and sometimes, don't even know it. There is so much to be done in this lifetime, and when you find your path to success and leadership, then you can help others achieve in finding what their contributions to humanity and the rest of the world should be. Whether or not you are helping someone find themselves, molding the minds of our children here in the U.S., donating and pledging your time to Hurricane Sandy relief efforts or any other organizations, writing books and stories to move people and inspire both adults and children, or anything else that you find a greater cause in; you are making this place better.
And if you are not doing your part, and feel like you can do more, then watch this movie, please! You will want to become a better person by the time the movie is finished.
Saturday, November 10, 2012
Humanizing my journal
I read a recent post from an author mentor of mine that you should write everyday, no matter how exhausted or whether or not you think you have something to say. But you must write, and continue to write, about the things that move you and what you are most passionate about. Even in your darkest moments, or during those times when you are stumped and think you have nothing to say; simply sit down and write! Write like your life depends on it! Write as if your writing will save the world or feed a million hungry homeless starving children in the desperate deserted sands of an abandoned African abyss!
So here I am, writing in my new blog, "Diary of Daily Wisdom." I've decided to leave my journal behind; a journal which I have kept for over 20 years now. Instead, I am going to dedicate my passion and my thoughts to a greater positive, and I am going to do it so well that I hope others will be as moved as I am, each and every single day. Whether or not these feelings will be struggles, triumphs, laughter, heartbreaks, personal conquests, or anything else there is to be discovered, we are going to do this together.
I'm humanizing my journal and bringing it to the world wide web. When I was trying to figure out a way to brand myself in the most strategically correct manner as possible, I saw bringing my own personal struggles and strives as a perfect opportunity. I have two passions: one is becoming the best children's book author and mentor that I can possibly be and two; becoming one of the best authors, advisories and guides for people who need a better outlook and understanding of their own personal experience and lives.
Instead of spending endless hours writing in my journal, I will now dedicate that time to my audience of friends, fans, and online connections who seek wisdom about anything from their relationships to their careers to their health and so on. And you will slowly learn, as did I, that the most important thing that we as human beings can do is love ourselves. Especially before we give that love to another. This is why so many relationships struggle to survive, and in time, simply diminish into almost nothing that it was before it even was defined in the first place. If I can show you how to love and respect yourself through your own dreams, success, wants, and needs, then you will find that perfect relationship that you are always searching for.
I will also stress how important it is to let go of your past. Even though it will always be a part of you, must not let it destroy your present and future. So many people linger on the past, and it always interferes with their relationships. I know this because I've done the same thing for so many years. From the murder of my real father, to the discovery of having a different biological father, to the death of my 1st love and best friend, to my mother's own real life addiction and ultimately, the cause of her life-threatening illness, to deciding to dedicate my life to sobriety, to the recent death threat to the President of the United States made by my step-father's then insane girlfriend, to the ghostly apparitions that have existed throughout our family's crazy history...this and much more is to be reflected upon and used as a gateway into my life. All of these things have had some kind of molding on what moves my soul because they are the core of my creativeness. And funny enough, they all really happened. Some in more comical ways then they should, but that is life, and I'm sure you have tons of history and stories to share too!
I am looking forward to taking this journey with you all. In doing so, I believe that I can better serve you if you have an endearing understanding of all of the tribulations in which I have struggled through and ultimately, have sacrificed to overcome. My past proved to almost take the best parts of me and wash them away with the hands of time; however, through God's gifts and my own personal inner strength, I was able to overcome these obstacles and shake those demons off of my shoulders for good. I wish I could say that about my mother. For her, it was too late, and now, she must suffer in a way that no human should have to suffer. I hope that with her story, and mine alike, we can all learn and grow with one another. So that we, as women, and men if you are reading this, can be strong, passionate, successful, and steadfast. Never allowing those dark moments, or any negativity, to make you think you are less of a person; incapable of doing the impossible.
I will help you through your relationships because God knows I have had my fair share of them. Some were quite long; my longest was six years to be exact. Others were very short, maybe a year or two. And some were too short to even remember, or maybe I was just on a fast path train to an even faster train wreck. Either way, I owe my addictive personality to my ability to define what makes a relationship work. Whether this has to do with friendships, romance, soul mates, or lack there of it all, I will try to help you find what works for you, and who works well with you to make you the happiest and most positive person that you can be.
With this happiness and positive thinking, passion and determination, you will become a person who others will gravitate toward. There are so many dynamics when it comes to a true definition of love and relationships, and what makes our desires become our defaults. I will do my best to help you avoid these things, but in order to do that, we have to share our experiences with each other. So sit back, and enjoy in the daily wisdom that I hope to bestow upon you, and if I'm as lucky, you will give back to me. Put on your favorite tunes or whatever it is you like to do while you learn, reflect, and discover. I want us to laugh, cry, stumble, and pick each other back up again. Most importantly, I want you all to find out the things that have put me on the right path to a fulfilling relationship and success.
Because I am here, as living proof, that you can become anything who you work hard and strive to be. It just takes a little bit of experience, enlightenment, and education (the three E's). This is your daily wisdom for today.
So here I am, writing in my new blog, "Diary of Daily Wisdom." I've decided to leave my journal behind; a journal which I have kept for over 20 years now. Instead, I am going to dedicate my passion and my thoughts to a greater positive, and I am going to do it so well that I hope others will be as moved as I am, each and every single day. Whether or not these feelings will be struggles, triumphs, laughter, heartbreaks, personal conquests, or anything else there is to be discovered, we are going to do this together.
I'm humanizing my journal and bringing it to the world wide web. When I was trying to figure out a way to brand myself in the most strategically correct manner as possible, I saw bringing my own personal struggles and strives as a perfect opportunity. I have two passions: one is becoming the best children's book author and mentor that I can possibly be and two; becoming one of the best authors, advisories and guides for people who need a better outlook and understanding of their own personal experience and lives.
Instead of spending endless hours writing in my journal, I will now dedicate that time to my audience of friends, fans, and online connections who seek wisdom about anything from their relationships to their careers to their health and so on. And you will slowly learn, as did I, that the most important thing that we as human beings can do is love ourselves. Especially before we give that love to another. This is why so many relationships struggle to survive, and in time, simply diminish into almost nothing that it was before it even was defined in the first place. If I can show you how to love and respect yourself through your own dreams, success, wants, and needs, then you will find that perfect relationship that you are always searching for.
I will also stress how important it is to let go of your past. Even though it will always be a part of you, must not let it destroy your present and future. So many people linger on the past, and it always interferes with their relationships. I know this because I've done the same thing for so many years. From the murder of my real father, to the discovery of having a different biological father, to the death of my 1st love and best friend, to my mother's own real life addiction and ultimately, the cause of her life-threatening illness, to deciding to dedicate my life to sobriety, to the recent death threat to the President of the United States made by my step-father's then insane girlfriend, to the ghostly apparitions that have existed throughout our family's crazy history...this and much more is to be reflected upon and used as a gateway into my life. All of these things have had some kind of molding on what moves my soul because they are the core of my creativeness. And funny enough, they all really happened. Some in more comical ways then they should, but that is life, and I'm sure you have tons of history and stories to share too!
I am looking forward to taking this journey with you all. In doing so, I believe that I can better serve you if you have an endearing understanding of all of the tribulations in which I have struggled through and ultimately, have sacrificed to overcome. My past proved to almost take the best parts of me and wash them away with the hands of time; however, through God's gifts and my own personal inner strength, I was able to overcome these obstacles and shake those demons off of my shoulders for good. I wish I could say that about my mother. For her, it was too late, and now, she must suffer in a way that no human should have to suffer. I hope that with her story, and mine alike, we can all learn and grow with one another. So that we, as women, and men if you are reading this, can be strong, passionate, successful, and steadfast. Never allowing those dark moments, or any negativity, to make you think you are less of a person; incapable of doing the impossible.
I will help you through your relationships because God knows I have had my fair share of them. Some were quite long; my longest was six years to be exact. Others were very short, maybe a year or two. And some were too short to even remember, or maybe I was just on a fast path train to an even faster train wreck. Either way, I owe my addictive personality to my ability to define what makes a relationship work. Whether this has to do with friendships, romance, soul mates, or lack there of it all, I will try to help you find what works for you, and who works well with you to make you the happiest and most positive person that you can be.
With this happiness and positive thinking, passion and determination, you will become a person who others will gravitate toward. There are so many dynamics when it comes to a true definition of love and relationships, and what makes our desires become our defaults. I will do my best to help you avoid these things, but in order to do that, we have to share our experiences with each other. So sit back, and enjoy in the daily wisdom that I hope to bestow upon you, and if I'm as lucky, you will give back to me. Put on your favorite tunes or whatever it is you like to do while you learn, reflect, and discover. I want us to laugh, cry, stumble, and pick each other back up again. Most importantly, I want you all to find out the things that have put me on the right path to a fulfilling relationship and success.
Because I am here, as living proof, that you can become anything who you work hard and strive to be. It just takes a little bit of experience, enlightenment, and education (the three E's). This is your daily wisdom for today.
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